Can you imagine a happy married life without sex? , Couples shares their experience about that life
Kabir and Pritanjali have been married for more than two years and they say that their sexless marriage is absolutely blissful. Is this possible or is there trouble in this paradise? Let’s hear from them.
“I and my wife Pritanjali have been married for two years and have we had sex? No!”
I know, I know. It sounds wrong. For me and for everyone around me, not having sex when you are married means one thing for sure, if nothing else: There’s something wrong with us. I and my wife Pritanjali have been married for two years and have we had sex? No! Are we planning on having sex? Not right now at least. But does that mean something is wrong with us? Not at all. We are as happy as any other couple, if not more. So, here’s our story.
?”We both met in an LGBTQ rally and developed a friendship the very first time we met.”
We both met in an LGBTQ rally and developed a friendship the very first time we met. It led to Facebook correspondence, exchange of invites for other such events, some tagging and poking. You know what I thought her sexual orientation was? Homosexuality or perhaps, bisexuality. The assumption was mutual and she thought the same about me. Can I call that a problem with the LGBTQ community? May be or may be not. Anyway, the majority in our community is that of homosexuals and call it negligence when we assume that someone fighting for these rights is a gay himself/herself. As a matter of fact, we both were asexuals. We discovered it quite later though.
“We developed intimacy but thought that the other one wasn’t hetero.”
We developed intimacy but thought that the other one wasn’t hetero. One fine evening, when we were catching coffee after a seminar about LGBT, Pritanjali asked me who was the lucky guy I was dating. I told her that I wasn’t gay but asexual and haven’t found anyone yet. Oh my goodness, she looked at me with her mouth agape and I was constantly asking her what had happened. It’s then that our relationship began because she was and is an asexual too! We got married in November 2015.
“We took time to physically get comfortable with each other.?”
We love each other, we cuddle, we party, we even kiss, but there’s one thing that we don’t do: Sex. In fact, in the beginning, our cuddles were also very brief and inhibited. We took time to physically get comfortable with each other.
“It’s not like we don’t sleep together; we do that often but we also have many days when we want to sleep by ourselves.”
We have separate bedrooms because I believe that we both value our personal physical space a lot. It’s not like we don’t sleep together; we do that often but we also have many days when we want to sleep by ourselves.
“?When I tell my straight and cisgender friends about this, they often ask how can we not like sex.”
When I tell my straight and cisgender friends about this, they often ask how can we not like sex. Some even go to the extent of saying that if there’s no sex, there’s no love. It has been over two years we have been married and do you think something’s wrong with us? Not at all. We just belong to one spectrum of this world and no one has any right to say that it’s wrong just because they don’t belong there. I love Pritanjali probably more than you can imagine.
“As far as kids are concerned, we are planning on adopting one very soon.”
As far as kids are concerned, we are planning on adopting one very soon. In fact, we have already begun our R&D and are soon about to fill in an application for a girl child. That’s our kind of immaculate conception, isn’t it?
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