An open letter by a 40-year-old wife about her sexual desires

An open letter by a 40-year-old wife about her sexual desires

Dear husband, while blowing 46 candles on my birthday cake a few days back, I was surprised by your choice of gift—you had given me a treadmill! While I appreciate your concern for my health, I was expecting a pair of naughty lingerie or sexy something, which you used to surprise me with a few years back on my birthdays. I wonder why people feel a woman’s sex drive dwindles once she enters 40s. Interestingly, my sexual cravings have not taken a back seat with age and in fact, our sex life has never been this amazing. I have discovered what all works for me and there is so much more we can still do to add spice to our love life. Here’s what we can do together to make life more exciting…

Let’s not talk about kids, bills and household chores

Being in our mid-forties, we have a pretty stable life. Our kids are doing well and we are no longer burdened by a home or car loan. We have surely come a long way and nothing serious can shake our boat now. So, let’s stop fretting about bills, household chores and other minute things in our bedroom and dedicate our sex session to each other. I want you to keep everything aside for that hour and concentrate on the beautiful (and steamy) bond we share.

Be a lover, not a husband

We have been together for more than 20 years. Please stop taking me for granted. Be the passionate lover who makes efforts to woo his partner in bed every time they make love. Don’t let the spark between us fade off and let your emotions do all the talking in bed.

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Understand my needs

Yes, you still drive me crazy in bed and you can take this to next level by knowing my sexual needs better. Understand (or ask) what all works for me, and be a little less selfish (care about my orgasm!), more skilled and passionate in your approach. And yes, don’t forget to use a lube!

Don’t judge my body

We have two wonderful kids, and my body has gone through countless changes over these years. Don’t judge me for my stretchmarks and wrinkles; these are the beautiful reminders of the memories we have built together. My skin might be sagging and I might have developed a paunch but I think we have crossed the stage where sex is all about physical attraction.

Don’t stop experimenting

Sex becomes monotonous for many couples with time but I hope that never happens with us. Age is just a number, and let’s not stop experimenting between the sheets. Whether it is role play, bondage or a new position, I am up for anything and everything. What are your plans for the night, hubby?

The frequency is not the same but…

Remember the initial years of our sex life? Those were crazy! We used to make love three to four times a day and still craved for more. Our frequency may have come down to once a week but I want you to know that I am happy with it. As long as we are comfortable and can still satisfy each other, there is nothing more I can ask for.

An open letter by a 40-year-old wife about her sexual desires

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