Even if you have the best understanding with your partner, at some point your relationship will definitely hit a rough patch. It could be before marriage, after marriage, after having kids or anytime. When you think about the kind of lives we live, it’s only natural that our relationship gets strained. But then there is a simple solution, which helps couple reconnect in times of struggle.
Psychologist Belinda Williams suggests ‘micro-moments’. She says this is about bringing back intimacy in short-term five-minute blocks. “It doesn’t have to be big chunks of time for it to be impactful to your relationship,” Belinda told Kidspot. “Micro moments are really taking the smallest of opportunities to connect.
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“I encourage couples to find the smallest opportunity to signal to each other that they care and love one another – it may ensure a proper greeting and farewell, a quick cuddle as you pass in the hallway, holding hands as you fall asleep, saying I love you face to face, an expression of gratitude or a small gift like their favourite tea.”
She added: “The main principle is that if we wait for opportunities of grand gestures, it often means that this is unattainable or too long between opportunities for connection. “So take what you can get. Make the most of the small moments.”
So does it really work? Ask Bek and her partner who was feeling that they were losing their connection in life and decided to try this.
“I’m embarrassed to admit that I set a reminder in my phone, each day, to remind me to snuggle up with Mike on the couch and tell him how much I loved him after our son was in bed,” she said.
“But you know what? It worked.”
According to Bek this helped make their spark come shooting back. She added: “It turns out those micro-moments really add up after all.”
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